Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Because last night we spoke to a womanizer who gave us the insightful advice that this is the time in your life to gaze into the eyes of people, until you start to blush, and take it from there.

This is your opportunity to explore emotions and relations, before you have your three kids and baking cookies in a house somewhere. (Loving it, of course.) Seeing that he is a networker deluxe, he jokingly suggested that he would start scouting interesting characters for us to get to know. Although slightly, utterly, resistant to look at love as a mission and a business, it got us thinking about what list of criteria we might present. Our only belief is that the universe knows better than we do regarding who we should be with, but naturally, we are aware of certain characteristics we value above others. By really narrowing it down, there are two main ones:

- Confident and utterly comfortable in yourself
- Intelligent humor (Filip & Fredrik, Ricky Gervais, Mitch Hedberg)

From there we could add a set of bonus traits:

- Handsome, beautiful, tall, dark
- Driven, entrepreneurial, a doer
- Passionate, about anything
- Kind, golden hearted
- Love making out
- Great dancer
- Swimmer, tennis or basketball player
- Curious
- Likes Billie Holiday, Al Green, Håkan Hellström
- Possibly diagnosed with adhd, or very talkative

If you feel that this applies to you, or if you know of fantastic men with these qualities, please let us know. We might have a completely inaccurate view of what we want, but we also know that trying and failing is a great way to learn.
Because a really good read is a commencement speech delivered by Adrian Tan. One of his advices: Fall in love.

I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.
You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

And that is just the end part of a text filled with some great quotes:
"I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them."

"Don’t expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live."

"Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence."

"It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong."

Oh, man.
We got another truth of the day delivered this morning by Jimmy Twin. "I would chose you anytime, but you must be aware that the world has apparent problems with appreciation."

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Because we've come to realize that the expression "live your future" is about taking care of tomorrow today. Meaning, doing all the things you equally well could do today instead of post poning it to the next day. And doing this with joy by seeing your future self as a friend whom you want to make life as easy as possible for. If you act thoughtful towards yourself, the slacker you can have a nice day once in a while, instead of just waiting for the day goody-two-shoes-you will appear and take care of last weeks messes. And, because Gregory Peck is most likely the world's most handsome man both present and future.
Because childhood guy friends are possibly one of the most valueable constellation of atoms in this universe. And because we love our friends in the Break-up Club, accepting the fact that life sometimes simply sucks and that "what doesn't kill you, fucks you up mentally". Regardless, there is always champagne to cure both real and imaginary relationships. And as dear F. Scott put it: “Vitality shows in not only the ability to persist but the ability to start over”. Or like Markus Krunergård sings:
Det är först när man ger upp som det blir något nytt.
När man släpper taget tar man steget.
Jag vet hur ont det gör när hoppet dör,
men askan är den bästa jorden.
Och även fast du inte tror det,
du kommer födas och dö, födas igen,
så länge du hör musiken.
Although this image looks insanely and meticulously styled, and American men have the broadest necks in the world, we see a sweetness shining through and that's about all we care for.
Because you order a no-room grand drip coffee (medium black coffee) every morning and more than 60% of the times, they get the order wrong. And you can not think how someone could get a simple coffee order wrong. So, you tried various tactics to place the order by changing sequence of words and pauses. They were:

1. Grande drip, (pause) no room
2. Drip coffee (pause) no room, grande size
3. Grande, no room (pause) drip
4. Grande drip no room-no pause
5. Grande no room drop-no pause
6. No room, grande drip-no pause
7. No room (long pause-count 123 in your head) grande (short pause-count 1 in your head) drip

Number 7 is the winner! If you follow 7, you have the highest likelihood of getting the medium black coffee you want.

And because you've attended our second favourite institution of learning (not counting life itself) Singularity University, who challenges all their students to have a positive impact on 1 billion people withing 10 years of launching their projects. And because at some point it will be a good idea to fall in love.