I wanna make out with you all the time!

2012-01-17T11:28:00.016-03:00

Rosy cheeks, lovely locks and we've never seen John Lennon look so irresistible. Besides being a musical genius and an old soul, he said something very true about partner selection; "I'd never met a woman I considered as intelligent as me. That sounds bigheaded, but every woman I met was either a dolly-chick, or a sort of screwed-up intellectual chick. And of course, in the field I was in, I didn't meet many intellectual people anyway. I always had this dream of meeting an artist, an artist girl who would be like me. And I thought it was a myth, but then I met Yoko and that was it."

2012-01-17T11:28:00.015-03:00

"He has curly black hair, pale-green eyes, and the relaxed demanor of someone who lives five minutes away from his favorite beach."

Sometimes, thanks to the talented writers at The New Yorker, we don't even need images.

2012-01-17T11:28:00.012-03:00

First and foremost, guys with golden blazers will always get our vote. Secondly, wavy hair is gaining a substantial lead, bringing the men of manes way ahead of beards. And thirdly, we were recently advised to look at things in processes, not one time action points, and that life is all about creating good habits.

2012-01-17T11:26:00.007-03:00

We are embracing a New Year that shall be characterized by Focus and Love. We've heard people wonder if they are ready for 2012. Our main concern is whether twelthie is ready for us.

In honor of our dear friend who left "Let's make better mistakes next year" notes in unknown offices, we would like to quote the slightly more famous Samuel Beckett: "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better."

2011-12-12T14:57:00.011-03:00

We're missing something that would resemble a spark in your eyes, but today's mood find something appealing about androgynous, heroin chic men.

It will all be good in the end, and if it's not good, it is not the end. But then again, we do know that it is not the end that is near, the future is.

2011-12-12T14:34:00.003-03:00

Because your name is Texas, and because of the vast horizons that guarantee nothing.

2011-12-12T14:33:00.001-03:00

Because Lady Gaga is our home girl. And little monsters should always stay strong.

2011-12-12T14:28:00.012-03:00

* Three Months Later *

You are an engineering nerd, and I assume you work all the time
Yet your handsome stature, your boyish charm, is surely worth the climb

The reason I behave as I know you, is because I see
So much of me in you, or so much of you in me

That shadow of a smile, waiting to burst into laughter
Unruly curls, as extensions of thoughts of similar character

A sense of humor, unintentionally entertaining, not really witty
Sparkling eyes, striving still to replaced judgement with curiosity

Communicative, attemptingly pedagogical, we try to make sense
With a contagious enthusiasm, luring people to our side of the lens

Yes, intelligent eyes, the mirrors of a soul and widely seeing
Injecting in its spectator a sense of confidence, calm and well-being

Rich in knowledge, accumulating wisdom. Hard to impress
But lightly amused. Difficult to catch, but easy to undress

Likeable, from the relaxed way in which we move around the world
experiencing life on a different level, another spin, a smoother swirl

Learning from mistakes, and not really knowing what to believe
being happy for each day of health, and the developments we achieve

Yet, my heart beats louder than yours, words flow freely in abundance
A longer way for you to go, tracing unknown paths of emotional distance.

2011-11-25T18:06:00.001-03:00

Because we should never underestimate the influence the Ocean has on our future plans. And because we've been in love one hundred and fifty times or more, but meeting you made us realize we'd never been in love before.

2011-11-21T12:15:00.005-03:00

Because the reason cigarettes look so sexy and seductive in photos and film is because we can't smell or taste it. Or in the words of our western Yogi Richard Hittleman;

"Since we all know very well that smoking holds no value for the human organism, that is, the body certainy does not require nicotine and tar for its well-being, we can classify the habit as largely a nervous one. /.../ Coal tar and nicotine taste good after heavy, rich, devitalized, acid-forming foods. But cigarettes will hold little attraction following a meal that has been composed largey of life-force food."

And because you are still pretty handsome for someone being prone to nervous habits and a devitalized diet.

2011-11-21T12:10:00.008-03:00

Because men who attempted to climb Mount Everest in 1924 apparently knew how to do so in style. Especially, top level far right and bottom row second from left.

And because it is much easier to remember that the world's highest mountain is nearly 9 kilometers high, rather than 8850 meters (2 meters more than first thought).

2011-11-21T12:08:00.005-03:00

Because you are the person you take the time to become, and what most people seem to miss is that time is the only common nominator among us. And because you seem to know how to spend it, loosing yourself in a beautiful moment.

2011-11-20T20:02:00.007-03:00

Because you are obviously a cool guy and because personal integrity requires rebellion at some point. And because right moral over rules stupid laws, although society is (in general) sane and rational. We also picked-up that parrots are the only other species besides humans who enjoy moving rythmically to music and are able to speak, even if former Chairman of the Nobel Committee Prof. Wigzell did not go into the details of the neuro similarities that would explain this behaviour.

2011-11-20T19:23:00.009-03:00

Because, wow. Because few things are as gorgeous as lusterous curls. Because your talent emerges out of working with other talented individuals. And because people talk about wanting a piece of the cake, failing to see that the cake is all over the place. And it seems like you see the importance in understanding what is going on, that the only two things you need to change the world is imagination and a smart phone, and in order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.

2011-11-20T18:45:00.006-03:00

One of the more amusing incidents of this summer was when our leopard jumpsuit was out in the Brooklyn night. A guy at Daddy's comes up and says he has made a bet with his friends and wonders if we could change clothes. It sounded like fun and we go into the bathroom together where an exchange of jeans, t-shirt and a significantly more festive outfit is made. As we return, half the establishment is wondering what the hell just happend. The guy, Matt from Pennsylvania, has The Time of His Life and his friends are most impressed. After a while it becomes rather boring to stand around in a pair of Levi's while someone else is living it up with the leopard, so we go back the restroom. Undressing once more he then says, "I can't believe we haven't made out yet." We were very tempted to say that "That's our line", but sometimes words are unnecessary.

2011-11-20T18:44:00.006-03:00

Because even if the image is blurry, your charm shines through. And at a lecture on Delivering Happiness we learnt that this wonderful feeling residing in our bodies comes from perceived control and perceived progress, connectedness, core values, a vision and a higher purpose.

2011-11-20T18:38:00.007-03:00

Although clearly beautiful, we are slightly sceptical to the choice of sweater. Maybe you made a minor error in the closet, or as our old American man of choice, Russ Ackoff, would say:

One never learns from doing things right because, obviously, one already knows how to do it. What one derives from doing something right is confirmation of what one already knows. This has value, but it is not learning. One can only learn from mistakes, by identifying and correcting them. But all through school and in most places of employment we are taught that making mistakes is a bad thing. Therefore, we try to hide or deny those we make. To the extent we succeed, we preclude learning. Furthermore, there are two types of mistakes: errors of commission, doing something we should not have done; and errors of omission, not doing something we should have done.

Needless to say, a theory much applicable to the field of romance too.

2011-11-07T18:10:00.008-03:00

Because classic beauty and beards always makes us happy. And because we could re-name this blog to I wanna make out with you (yes, you) all the time. And because substantial matters of the heart bring out the poets in us.

Oh hey, hi, it's me again,
just calling to see if things have changed in the land of men.

What have you been up to? How do you do?
Do you ever think about me, the way I do of you?

Meaning: do I appear at night when it is time for bed?
Do I greet you in the morning when natives of dreams from daylight have fled?

If all minds are connected, and they surely are,
we've already been travelling together wide and far.

I especially like when you go off exploring Paris on your own,
the strangeness of Kansas City or your gigabit excitement in the Tokyo hi-tech zone.

I hope you enjoy the smell of autumn in Stockholm town,
on adventures in my pocket as the coloured leaves fall down.

I want your inner world, I want your soul,
I want your arms, your heart, your age as it turns old.

But the future comes but a day at the time,
every hour sweeter, minutes are sublime
bringing me closer to an era when you'll be mine.

2011-11-07T18:10:00.006-03:00

Because, like a Hugo Boss fragrance ad, "we don't expect sucess, we prepare for it". And whatever troubles may be on pretty Bo's mind, he ought to know that there is nothing left to worry about.

2011-11-07T18:08:00.003-03:00

Because "again, all that one can hope for is an open market. Boredom has always played more of a role in human history than we are prepared to admit. And we should never underrate the boredom induced by empty ideas pretentiously paraded". Jerome Bruner wrote those wise words, very applicable to people who, much like ourselves, are in love with love. However, we do experience a conflict between empty ideas vs. gut feeling (there is no doubt in our mind where you belong). But, point taken.

2011-10-18T14:13:00.006-03:00

Because Brazilians will always be the lovers of the world. And, "living successfully in a world of complex systems means expanding not only time horizons and though horizons; above all, it means expanding the horizons of caring", to quote, what is bound to be our new bible, Thinking in Systems. It is by our new favourite woman, Dana Meadows, who also writes:

Don't Erode the Goal of Goodness
/.../
And so expectations are lowered. The gap between desired behaviour and actual behaviour narrows. Fewer actions are taken to affirm and instill ideals. The public discourse is full of cynism. Public leaders are visibly, unrepentantly amoral or immoral and are not held account. Idealism is ridiculed. Statements of moral belief are suspect. It is much easier to talk about hate in public than to talk about love.

2011-10-18T13:43:00.006-03:00

Because smiling, happy Swedes are rare, and we also believe that anything is possible if you put your mind to it. However, current research show that optimism, instead of being a virtue, it is a brain malfunction. Another term could be folk-psychologically insane.

Our thesis supervisor have given us a small stack of Jerome Bruner books on narratives and story-making and with titles like Actual minds, possible worlds, we are enjoying every page of it. In Acts of Meaning he pretty much, in his own meta-academic manner, sums up a lot of our feeling-driven behaviour;

But we also know that desire may lead us to find meanings in contexts where others might not. /.../ This reciprocal relation between perceived states of the world and one's desires, each affecting the other, creates a subtle dramatism about human action which also informs the narrative structure of folk psychology. When anybody is seen to believe or desire or act in a way that fails to take the state of the world into account, to commit a truly gratuitous act, he is judged to be folk-psychologically insane unless he as an agent can be narratively reconstructed as being in the grip of mitigating quandary or of crushing circumstances. It may take a searching judicial trial in real life or a whole novel in fiction to effect such a reconstrual. But folk psychology has room for such reconstruals: "truth is stranger than fiction."

2011-10-18T13:24:00.005-03:00

Because a tan and stripes is a very good combination. And with that cool air of an American dude, it reminds us of the male character from One Day, David Nicholls' best-selling love story which contains several grains of truth.

He wonders if he still might tell her that he loves her or, more tentatively, that he 'thinks he might be in love with her', which is both more touching and easier to back out of.
/.../

He picks up the phone. He is frankly drunk now, and with drunkenness has come the old compulsion: to say something stupid to an attractive woman.

And from the leading lady;

'Dexter, I love you so much. So, so much, and I probably always will.' Her lips touched his cheek. 'I just don't like you anymore. I'm sorry.'
/.../

'Oxfordshire. Very nice,' she said, privately mortified at the speed with which initimacy evaporates, to be replaced by small talk. Last night they had said and done all those things, and now they were like strangers in a bus queue. The mistake she had made was to fall asleep and break the spell. If they had stayed awake, they might still have been kissing now, but instead it was all over and she found herself saying; 'How long will that take then? To Oxfordshire?'

2011-10-17T16:34:00.002-03:00

Because we love a casual tree climb, Brooklyn boys and the occasional tequila can in a world coloured by shades of blue.

2011-10-17T15:56:00.002-03:00

Because sweet Swedes are even better when they are in California, explain their choice of education to parents through pie charts and have worked in Botswana. We do have a rule against younger brothers, but when they are this charming, we just want to share.

2011-10-09T18:15:00.003-03:00

Because you look kind and curious, have a beard and hairy arms. It seems like your passion chooses you and that you might know what is done in an ideal world vs. what is practical to do right now that will add value to your life.

2011-10-09T18:07:00.008-03:00

Because we adore dark curly hair, leather, extravagant wall paper, potato chips and Reese's peanut butter cups.

And because research has shown that the answer to the question "Do you like the taste of beer?" is more predictive than any other of whether you are willing to have sex on a first date.

2011-10-09T17:48:00.004-03:00

Because in California we've learnt that a key to prosperity is to replace judgement with curiosity and create a lot of ideas worth stealing. We've also understood that ideas are cheap and that execution is key, that you can solve a lot of problems using post-its and that ambition levels are contagious. Most things are in flux and the only thing you can (aim to) control is your own excellence. It is better fail than to do nothing at all, or rather, fail fast to succeed sooner. The success of others will reward you too. Greater challenges offer more space for innovative solutions. Bedroom eyes, prominent cheek bones and all the things you do will connect in the end. That's why you should be as open and exploratory as possible.

2011-10-09T17:18:00.002-03:00

So, the heart and brain has never experienced a greater disconnect. Maybe that's why we see hidden messages in books on Silicon Valley entrepreneurship and the strategy of investors; "Why would they tell him "no"? He might improve the idea or his team, or some other investor might get excited and then those on the side line would swarm in and create a frenzy. Or, who knows, if not this time, his next idea could be a winner. Might as well keep the door open."

In a sense it feels like we've open the door to Pandora's ballroom and are left with a refreshing lack of interest in all other men and a completely new appreciation for Whitney Houston songs. Contrary to Groucho Marx, we wouldn't want to belong to a club that would not admitt us as members. And contrary to all logic, we remain firm believers in magic and happy endings.

In art, as in life, perspective is most difficult and perception of beauty entirely individual.

At least Ashton is still handsome and share our idea of romance.

2011-09-26T15:21:00.002-03:00

They met at the Swedish Chamber of Commerce's crayfish party. To him, a casual affair. Forgetting that's how all great love stories begin.

Give us 140 characters and that's the story. We've met a man who we could, and have, easily write the world's longest novel on his virtues and beauty, how calm and beautiful he makes us feel, and how in our heart of hearts we just know that two old souls has met again. Of course, this freaks guys out. We ought to know that by now. But we are humans, acting in self-interest, sometimes stupidly so, and if our romantic pursuits have come to anything it is courting this man until he realizes that his future happiness depends on it. Frankly, my dear, we have never been so sure of anything before.

2011-09-13T22:53:00.003-03:00

Because Midnight in Paris is a delightful cliche of a French-American relations. And because French people define who they are by what they do outside of work and Americans define who they are by what they do at work. And because French people take food seriously and sex lightly while Americans take food lightly and sex seriously.

And because Woody Allen's Hemingway pour out unbeatable prose like;

"All men fear death. It's a natural fear that consumes us all. We fear death because we feel that we haven't loved well enough or loved at all, which ultimately are one and the same. However, when you make love with a truly great woman, one that deserves the utmost respect in this world and one that makes you feel truly powerful, that fear of death completely disappears. Because when you are sharing your body and heart with a great woman the world fades away. You two are the only ones in the entire universe. You conquer what most lesser men have never conquered before, you have conquered a great woman's heart, the most vulnerable thing she can offer to another. Death no longer lingers in the mind. Fear no longer clouds your heart. Only passion for living, and for loving, become your sole reality. This is no easy task for it takes insurmountable courage. But remember this, for that moment when you are making love with a woman of true greatness you will feel immortal. "

2011-08-23T04:36:00.004-03:00

Possibly the most insightful/over-analytical rejection we've ever recieved.

Sunday, August 21, 2011, 02:45 am

Dear xxxxx. It makes me very, very sad that whatever mis-communication we've had has been received in a certain way. I think you are one of the most beautiful, interesting and intriguing people I've met. All I want to do is to have you for myself an kiss you in the shadows of the skyscrapers. I feel a rare connection when I look into your eyes, but maybe that is an illusion. Please let me know if I'm right or wrong. Silence will be translated in 'fuck off". X

Sunday, August 21, 2011, 01.23 pm

Xxxx --

You are a darling. Your honesty and "just do it" or "just say it" approach to life are remarkable. I really respect and appreciate these qualities in you. Your positivism is as well 'super awesome'.

Yes, I think there has been some miscommunication between the two of us. I did always feel something special (different might be a better word) with you. You are weird across the board though (even weirder than me I dare say; which is saying something) and so...I just took it as part of that weirdness. I'm not sure. I think (the whole eye thing) was me trying to perceive what the fuck you were thinking. One minute I would think that you liked me but then the next I would think that you thought all that I was a facade and behind it all there was in actuality nothing (of respect); to which you reveled in knowing that I was but a fraud. I'm exaggerating but needless to say I had no idea what you thought and after a while I just didn't fucking care because I basically thought you were insane (and I know who I am and I am increasingly resilient to not caring what other people think of me). I I left it because relations between the two of us normally were fine. There wasn't anything that affected our relationship as friends or as 'professional colleagues'. Beyond that, whatever else that was going on in your head just didn't feel worth the effort of trying to figure out or perhaps more appropriately it didn't feel worth the effort because it seemed like literally like an unsolvable riddle. I apologize for not being more forward in communicating this sense of confusion. You seem like a smart girl so I felt like you must be semi cognizant that you were giving me messages that were all over the board. So, as it turns out it is all just your sense of my humour and my poor sense of humour as you like to think just wasn't able to interpret or pick up on that humour. Anyway....

So...I don't really want all this to interfere what we do have. To be clear, no, I don't want to make out. But I do want to hang out. You're great and I think you know this. Know it better than ever.

=> When would work for you to go check out this Thoreau Centre this coming week?

all the best,

Xxxxx

2011-07-10T19:33:00.002-03:00

Because you look like a complete air head and sometimes it's refreshing to just look into a pair of doozy eyes and admire sun-kissed curls, instead of redefining sovereignty, governing a melting Arctic or moving towards a reappraisal of economic thinking.

2011-07-10T16:52:00.003-03:00

Because we would like to go camping and fill the summer with sporty activities such as skinny dipping, tennis and mini-golf. And because bearded beauties like you should not be allowed not to smile at all of life's wonder.

2011-07-10T16:47:00.005-03:00

Because now we know never again to ask DJs to play "something you can dance to", but we can't help the fact that blue-eyed sweethearts like you makes us fall in love faster than a three minute song, even if the soundtrack is too slow to shake our bodies to.

2011-07-10T16:43:00.002-03:00

Because having friends who are called Greek gods by secret admirers, and who attorneys think look French, makes us very proud. And because you are the tallest, kindest, most intellectual and beautiful youngster we know.

2011-07-10T16:35:00.004-03:00

Because we love the causual unbottoned shirt, the books and the beard.

2011-07-10T16:11:00.009-03:00

Because we love waking up and find several missed calls from old male acquaintances. It makes us rather suprised though if it is 5 calls and 3 messages from a man whom we met last fall and when last we were in touch around Christmas, he said that he had made a resolution not to drink during all of 2011 and wished me the best of times. The first message was quite plain "We're having an after party, you should come. Come!" The second one said "Fuck Ernst & Young. You can do so much better than that" (We do not work at Ernst & Young.) And the last one: "I know you like to talk politics. I know you like politics. I do not like politics. But maybe we can meet halfway? Ok? Call me."

The optimist is convinced that this guy has not been drinking for half a year and once the alcohol starts kicking in, he builds up the courage to call the girl he has been thinking about for the past six months. The realist in us is quite certain that he is mixing us up with someone else, who works at Ernst & Young, or likes to talk extensively about politics.

So, naturally, we call him up to hear what this is all about, and yes, of course he wanted to talk to us. Slightly ashamed of not keeping his promise of sobriety, he was quite sweet and we ended saying that we would be in touch later on.

Later that week, I texted to know what he was up to, without getting a reply.

Then we wake up at out country house yesterday morning, with six new missed calls from the same dude, all dialed between 06:22 and 06:35 am. This time there is only one voice mail "Hi Emma (that's not our name). I'm willing to go home to you now. Call me."

Not romance in it's most rose scented or star gazing way. To be fair, the timing could have been better since he caught us at point in time when we are slightly tired of this sort of thing, but come on. Then around lunch he gives us a call to apologize, said that it's the hard liquor that drives you mad and am I married? Because he sense that I am a kind, relaxed and a very unusual girl that he would like to know better. Well, we'll see.

2011-06-09T17:47:00.006-03:00

Because our boss describes the global financial system as a Shakespearian drama, where the focus on short term instability creates a conflict, which then hints at a solution (Romeo meets Juliet) in a return to its original function of allocating resources over time (insurance) and to those in need (the poor).

And because beardos who are into current affairs makes or hearts and minds high five each other.

2011-06-09T17:45:00.015-03:00

We bumped into one of our long-time favorites this past weekend and he looked sharp in a fake Versace blazer and striped shirt. He was so handsome and nice that we decided on the novel approach of asking him out for a beer or a lunch at Grands veranda. Our treat. As working girls you ought to spend your money wisely on romantic meals and booze.

Although he is the most amusing and provoking person we know, he rarely surprises us. Needless to say, the invitation did not get a reply and we had to inform him how utterly rude that is and ask the open ended question - How will anything ever happen in the history of the world if antagonist never meet?

2011-06-09T17:45:00.014-03:00

Because what we really want is one of the world's best people, whose physical appearence might not entirely correspond to that of Marlon Brando, but more importantly, get reviews like; "Nils! You're awesome... never seen a party animal like you before, my eyes were awakened! Thanks for sharing your free spirit!".

2011-05-30T18:53:00.015-03:00

Because you look like you've been busy sailing the seven seas, acquiring a huge pile of stories and kindness that you only share with people who you actually find worthy of your attention. And who enjoy salty air, grilled sea bass and star gazing the way you do.

2011-05-30T18:53:00.014-03:00

Because the outdoor swimming season has started, making our hearts very light and draws an significant amount of attention away from boys to physical pleasures of sportier character. Or that's not completely true. We simply enjoy the semi-dressed company of boys who prefer to start off their days with a few turqoise laps even more.

2011-05-30T18:53:00.011-03:00

Because our boss say wonderful things like; "My bullshit flows more freely in the afternoon" and has a desk decorated with signs such as; "Things are getting worse, send more chocolate". And we love that, nearly as much as we would like to hang out and bs with bad boy teenager Woody Harrelson.

2011-04-18T17:09:00.004-03:00

We roamed through grandpa's old library and found a tiny book called Ord på Vägen. A completely, to us, unknown Jakob Billström spelled out what we know, adore and find most frustrating when it come to love;

"Kärleken skall vara en gåva av en annans fria och för den själv likväl oemåtståndliga vilja. Den kärlek man erhåller av medlidande, efter böner, efter hot eller gräl ... vad värde har egentligen den? En kärlek som byggs på rättigheter är ingen kärlek."

Vi kan erövra det mesta vi åtrår utom ett: den äkta kärleken. Den är suveränt fri, går obönhörligt sina egna vägar. Hur vi än åstundar den - är det inte bättre att avstå hur det än svider, om den inte är helt frivillig? I kärleken måste givandets och tagandets vågskålar väga jämnt.

2011-04-18T13:49:00.012-03:00

Because when we told our boss we thought it would be a good idea to corporatize social and environmental problems (bolagisera samhällsproblemen), he looked at us in that same doubtful way. Only so that when you do it, it's very attractive.

2011-04-18T13:49:00.011-03:00

Because on the first day of our three-months-office-life experiment, we realized that the best thing about work is the weekly fruit basket and Friday afternoon drinks.

2011-04-18T13:48:00.011-03:00

- På grund av bristande engagemang kommer vi tyvärr att lägga ner Omar's fan club. De stigande frimärkskostnaderna står inte i relation till mitt otillfredställda hångelbehov.
Hoppas du samtycker.

- Deal.
- Tack för de fina breven och nyquilsen.

- Nöjet var helt på min sida. X

2011-04-18T13:48:00.008-03:00

"You've achieved success in your field when you don't know whether what you're doing is work or play," and "Marriage requires a special talent, like acting. Monogamy requires genius" are two quotes by Warren Beatty. And if you find the internet a reliable source of information, he is also cited saying that; "My notion of a wife at 40 is that a man should be able to change her, like a bank note, for two 20s."

Clearly, a black sheep lacking both genius, work and play, but still a fairly good explanation as to why he is looking so sharp in dark wool.

2011-04-18T13:47:00.002-03:00

Because nothing quenches the thirst on a sweaty beach day as ice-cold coke with lemon, drunk through a straw, with sleeves rolled up and ray-bans on.

2011-04-10T15:12:00.005-03:00

Because the great thing about native languages is that words
sometime ring much truer in it than others. And really,
romance is all about a mutual desire to see each other.

Får jag träffa dig ikväll?
Jag har ingen anledning till det
Tänkte först gå runt det, tänkte råka springa på dig

Men nu är är det bara så
Att jag orkar inte göra så
Antingen vill du träffa mig eller så vill du det inte

Vill du det inte så går jag nog hel ut ur det
När man var liten föll man jämt
Men nu ska det vara så jävla hemskt

Så fastän du kanske säger ja bara för att vara snäll
Får jag träffa dig ikväll?

Får jag gå precis så nära
Att min axel stryker vid din arm
Jag vill inte verka jobbig eller så men jag är varm
Och du ser kall ut 


Lyrics from the song Får jag? by Säkert!

2011-04-06T19:04:00.007-03:00

Because you look like a guy who we would like to have living in one of our cupboards. We met him today and he was unusually, exceptionally nice, in addition to having messy hair and being unshaved in a very attractive way. He had to borrow our library card to print something, and maybe that was the only explanation to his civil behaviour . He then introduced himself to our other friend by saying that we are like yin and yang. In his world, that means that we are opposing forces who will never get along.
In our world it means that we complement each other in perfect harmony.

2011-04-06T08:17:00.004-03:00

Because we can't remember the last time we saw a man in a tie and a plaid shirt. And because you encompass the very mis-leading notion of the man as a stable, funny, great dad, great lover, hard working and reliable God.

2011-04-06T07:46:00.005-03:00

Because everything makes sense when we read that Robert has it's roots in the ancient Germanic name Hrodebert, a composition of honour (hrode) and light or shining (bert).
Our minds instantly think knight in shining armour, or simply, shiny, happy good times.

2011-04-06T07:31:00.003-03:00

Because you obviously know that every other, third or fourth drink should be a glass of water.

2011-04-01T21:16:00.006-03:00

Liljeholmsbron heter den. Perfekt gråtbro. Very scenic. Det är nog det jag hatar mest med stockholm, denna känsla att tvinga på andra sin kärlek. Känns sjukt ovärdigt och missförstått. Du är fantastiskt fin. Hoppas du drömmer sött. X

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Hoppas du fick känna dig lite extra speciell igår. Uppvaktningen ska hädanefter vara av mindre störig karaktär.

:-)
Är du ledig idag?

Har du en cykel?

Ja jag har en cykel.
Vi kan ligga istället för att cykla.

Jag visste inte om du ville ses påklädd eller avklädd. Men i så fall får du gärna komma till Östermalm sen.

Med eller utan kläder?

De går väl att ta av?

2011-04-01T21:13:00.003-03:00

Because you are R4, and the Greatest Brit we know.

2011-04-01T07:20:00.003-03:00

Because dudes who so obviously part-time as models possess such clean cut good-lookingness that it makes most of the IKEA catalogue look messy.

2011-04-01T07:03:00.005-03:00

Because you land perfectly in the grey zone between being a secret agent and a cast member from Singing in the rain. And because happy eyes is the most attractive thing we know.

2011-03-29T12:23:00.003-03:00

Because out there on the waves you seem charismatic, agreeable and adaptable and you can adapt to just about any social situation, convincing others you are just like them. And with your flexibility, liberal attitude and lack of prejudice, you can find something interesting in just about anyone. But when your interest wanes, you depart; you cannot tolerate boredom. As an Explorer you like knowledge, adventure and the pleasures of the senses, and you are drawn to those who are enthusiastic, curious, creative and energetic-people like yourself. Sex is important to you, too. As a Negotiator, you have a big heart; you are flexible and sensitive to the feelings of others and you are driven to seek harmony in your social life. So you avoid conflict, as well as people who compete with you. You also avoid those who structure your time and block things from happening spontaneously. And you can feel pressured by other's needs. So you are attracted to individuals who share your "live and let live" attitude. Money is secondary to you, so you also respect individuals who can part with theirs, particularly when spending leads to adventure or improves the world. And you are drawn to people who are direct, decisive and tough minded to balance out your flexible, spontaneous, intuitive style.

2011-03-28T09:03:00.003-03:00

Because it seems you just sat down in a photo booth to relax after a long lunch of cheese and wine, or maybe moules marinière, and while the busy streets of Paris roam about outside, the single lock of curl in your forehead makes the whispery sound of a flat b.

2011-03-28T09:02:00.005-03:00

Because you are so very attractive, simply by being incredibly light-blue, laid-back, having kind eyes, bony fingers, dimples and the best seven letters in the world printed over your chest.

2011-03-28T06:04:00.005-03:00

Because we love men, and when they don't respond to our telecom-based text messages, we send them poems via regular mail instead. And because we believe that the digital world sometime lack the mental clarity and pureness of heart that comes with analog communication.

2011-03-25T05:47:00.005-03:00

Because your hair would make any black stallion jealous and a galactic shaman is borrowing our apartment, which makes your t-shirt and our pleasant cosmic energy a match made in the outer stratosphere.

2011-03-25T05:45:00.007-03:00

Because you look classy in a reversed sports cap, seem to know how to drop a beat and certainly possess a few Justin-moves. And although Mr. Timberlake isn't one of our favourites, he does speak to our hearts;
"I wanna be your sky,
so blue and high,
and every time you think of me,
I wanna blow your mind",
or an even more striking all-round philosophy;
"I just want to enjoy my life and show this world how to care".

2011-03-22T06:15:00.006-03:00

Because spring sunshine is followed by summer sun and swimming. And because standing on that yatch makes you look like a modern day Baron, similar to our new discovery Edward Bulwer-Lytton. First Baron Lytton, who not only coined the utterly romantic opening line; "It was a dark and stormy night" but also wrote the one-and-only manual to success; "Nothing is so contagious as enthusiasm... it is the genius of sincerity, and truth accomplishes no victories without it."

2011-03-22T05:57:00.004-03:00

In fact, it comes to this: nobody is capable of really thinking about anyone, even in the worst calamity. For really thinking about that person every minute of the day, without letting one's thoughts be diverted by anything, by meals, by a fly that settles on one's cheek, by household duties, or by a sudden itch somewhere. But there are always flies and itches. That's why it is difficult to live.

We ususally find life pretty easy, but Albert Camus has a point in The Plague. Not that living is hard, but about brain capacity. Although certain persons tend to move into our brain, with age and by acquiring other passions, we've become better at diverting the mind towards trees, entrepreneurial dinosaurs and the importance of play. To blend out with the boy-think.

2011-03-22T05:40:00.004-03:00

Because for some reason you makes us think of a younger, European Julian Casablancas. And after seeing Somewhere, the song I'll try anything once again reminds of us the genius of those New York boys and the simple beauty of well chosen words;

When I said; 'I can see me in your eyes',
you said; 'I can see you in my bed'.
That's not just friendship that's romance too,
you like music we can dance to.

2011-03-21T18:50:00.007-03:00

Because, right now we are thinking about a boy to whom we have given the imaginary Native American name of Skinny Bear, who had us at "sluta larva dig" and what we really look forward to is the next time he will look into our eyes and smile.

And although we like the unity of smiles and beards and men and lips, we completely agree with Gandhi's overarching policy; "Throughout my life, all my activities have been motivated by the single objective of uniting hearts."

2011-03-21T18:32:00.012-03:00

New man of our dreams Dallas Clayton does not only have the best first name and a boyish grace that melts our hearts. He is also a cosmic twin in the universe of optimism, very handsome, draws magically, speaks wisely, loves strangers, hangs out with kids and is the founder of A Very Awesome World (which is like this world, but even better.)

He is very much living the dream and; "If you ever have any doubts about whether or not you should do something totally new even though you have no blue print whatsoever and there is every possibility that you could fail completely, the answer is 100% YES!"

And, of course, he writes poetry;
NEW LOVE

Find something new today
to love and enjoy
like the rest of those familiar loves
that have topped your list for years.

It doesn’t have to come close
and likely it won’t
but it might
and if it did
boy, that’d sure make this a day to remember-
the day you set about
turning over rocks
and shaking the neighborhood trees
only to discover
exactly what it was
you didn’t even know you were looking for.

As if that wasn't enough, we have one of our slightly messed-up beardo favourites reading An Awesome Book aloud for our loving ears.

2011-03-21T18:24:00.003-03:00

Because all kisses ought to be beautiful and spiritual, and because We feel fine.

2011-03-21T18:11:00.003-03:00

Because we've realised that the great thing about being single is that you are allowed to be in love with several people at the same time. And because ivory skin and curly locks of gold makes us happier than three bears.

2011-03-21T18:05:00.010-03:00

March 9th
21:26 - Hej, hej jag mår fint. Är du fortfarande hångelsugen?

March 10th
18:42 - Ja jag e lite sugen.

19:34 - Åh! Det verkar vara ett klokt beslut eftersom du har funderat i ett par timmar.

19:40 - Jag var inte sugen när messet kom.

19:54 - Skönt att du kommit på bättre tankar. Ska du inte komma över dåra?

20:09 - Nja, du får komma hit istället.

20:33 - "If a man speaks his mind in a forest, and no woman hears him, is he still wrong?"

2011-03-09T06:48:00.004-03:00

Because while we are wondering what course in rudeness and mis-communication the majority of boys in Stockholm have taken, there are still some breathtakingly beautiful man's men out there to keep our spirits up.

2011-03-07T06:37:00.002-03:00

Talking about Al Pacino, De Niro confirms our notion that, above all, confidence is essential when you are up for tough competition. “Al, over the years we’ve taken roles from one another. People have tried to compare us to one another, to pit us against each one another and to tear us apart personally. I’ve never seen the comparison frankly. I’m clearly much taller, more the leading-man type. Honestly, you just may be the finest actor of our generation – with the possible exception of me.”

2011-03-07T06:26:00.002-03:00

Because the feet take a person to where one's heart is. And our feet like walking in the direction of straight jaw lines and green eyes.

2011-03-07T06:01:00.003-03:00

We did a very simple, five-minute personality test, and although we all seem to be very different, there are only four classic categories behaviouralists divide us into. Pretty much, people who ask who? what? how? or why? Not suprsingly, we were deemed enthusiastic, but sometimes overwhelming, inventive but a dreamer, and unrealistic. (They made a point of that your biggest strength is also your biggest weakness.) Which is why we got the suggested solution to hang out more with people on the go, take a few risks, put up concrete goals and learn to concentrate, with only occasional lapses into the romantic.

2011-03-01T17:29:00.003-03:00

Because it makes us extremely happy that people who search for "snake men great seducers, french boys, hairy boys, HOME IMPROVEMENT BABES, greek god photo shoots, hot american men, newest tom seleck photos, beard long hair lover, men and animals, Well, first of all, you must realize that I worship you," end up right here.

2011-03-01T17:26:00.003-03:00

Because bearded, fearless men remind us of one of our current favorite topics - Death. We are fascinated by this since it is the one subject that truly emphasizes the wonders of being alive and the mystery of what, if anything, lies ahead. Deepak Chopra writes in Life After Death;

After death we gradually stop being local. We see ourselves as we really are from the soul's perspective: everywhere at once. This adjustment is probably the biggest obstacle any of us will encounter in the astral planes. Right now you are the center of the universe because infinity extends in all directions, yet someone on the other side of the world is also at the center of the universe, because infinity extends on all sides of him, too. If both of you are centers of the universe, you must both be at the same location. The fact that you appear to be in different places is a sensory artefact. It's based on sights and sounds, which are local events. You are not a local event.

No,we're probably not. But we still love boys, or as Chopra puts it;

... souls aren't drifting through the astral atmosphere but are directed by love itself. Love is a vibration, older than humanity itself. But the principle of directedness is very human: we go where our deepest desires take us.

2011-03-01T16:38:00.007-03:00

Because we would like to see some evolution of the kind where people start spending more same space-same time together, instead of exercising their fingers on smart phones or staring at an utterly non-arousing facebook page.

2011-03-01T16:25:00.003-03:00

Because, according to marketers, it is never the best product that wins, but the most attractive offer. This explains why we have some work to do when it comes to promoting our services.

Looking at it from the other side, we are always open for proposals that include spring, biking, dark, wavy hair and Italian shoes.

2011-02-24T16:46:00.002-03:00

Because those dreamy bedroom eyes are a killer. And you are gorgeous. Simply gorgeous.

2011-02-24T16:45:00.012-03:00

We've just finished a fantastic piece of literature about life as a young lady in Stockholm, written in 1908. Supposing that the young men looked as dashing as this, when Elin Wägner composed Norrtullsligan, we'd gladly be up for some time travelling.

Jag vet inte vilka män och andra olyckor, som väntar mig här i Stockholm, men det kan jag på åtminstone på empirisk väg räkna ut, att där jag är, där församla sig ännu några år framåt alltid ---

Mitt hjärta ropade helt omotiverat på någon, som jag aldrig tänker på, men som jag en gång hoppades jag skulle få ha barnbarn med. /.../

Det var inte mycket religion i vår jul, men där fanns rätt mycket rörande vänskap och en smula osjälvisk uppoffring och ävenledes ett visst hjältemod, ty alla voro glada, fast ingen var gift. /.../

Det var en sådan kväll då, herrarna som möter en, inte äns gitter räkna ut ens figur, och då även de bästa av oss omedvetet måste längta efter en bil och en älskare. Emedan jag icke är av de bästa, gjorde jag de medvetet.
Och det betänkliga var, att jag sade mig själv: det är det enklaste i världen för dig att skaffa bägge delarna.
Bara ---

2011-02-24T16:45:00.007-03:00

Okay, so most people look better in our book when sporting a beard, and possibly glasses, knowing how to play an instrument and standing on a street in Soho. Still, if you really want to make it, we do suggest a little bit of trimming.

2011-02-22T15:26:00.001-03:00

Because you sort of look like the DJ we brought home last weekend, with whom we drank tea, ate cookies and made out with to a soundtrack of 90's hiphop. And because there is no such thing as too many dark, bearded beauties.

2011-02-22T14:58:00.003-03:00

Sometime girls are dicks, sometimes boys are dicks and sometimes even we realize that you can do all the things in your power to try to get someone's attention, and still fail.
Which sucks, for sure, but what counts here is still that old saying; if you have never failed, you probably have not been doing a lot of interesting things.

2011-02-17T18:20:00.005-03:00

Grattis på födelsedagen, Xxxxxxx! Jag kan inte tänka mig annat än att du bara blir stiligare, och visare, för varje år som går :-) Hoppas att livet är underbart och att du har en fin dag, på samma sätt som du förgyller så många andras dagar. Stor kram, Xxxx

Stort tack för dem vänliga orden, sanna eller ej.. Ha det gott.

Klart att det är sanning! Du gör världen så himla mycket snyggare och när jag tänker på dig blir jag glad. Och när jag är glad blir, per automatik, åtminstone två tredjedelar av alla som korsar min väg också glada, och jag träffar ganska mycket folk. Alltså gör du universum bättre varje dag enbart genom din existens. Hipp hipp hurra för det!

2011-02-17T16:03:00.008-03:00

Mixing business with babes is a new concept of ours in which we strive to combine careering and pleasure, without neccessarily becoming prostitutes. This morning we went to a breakfast gathering with business maven Michael Treschow. He was so calm and handsome that we fell a little bit in love with him, certainly a good rating for a seminar on how to create a problem-solving and open atmosphere in the boardroom.

As usual when we listen to entrepreneurs, we hear a lot of things that relate to romance; "Never try to be tactical. Be open-minded and show who you are", "Always go for the best you can find, in any situation", "Don't shy away", "Hire [date] people who are smarter than you. It is fun to be challenged", and our all-time favourite; "One plus one always need to be substantially more than two."

2011-02-17T16:01:00.006-03:00

Because, besides the mathematical lesson from Mr. Treschow, the second most important information of the day comes from our Reiki handbook. And that is, that the only real task in life is to develop unconditional love. For yourself as well as others.

2011-02-17T16:00:00.004-03:00

Because, as Albert Camus writes in The Plague;

"... a loveless world is a dead world, and always there comes an hour when one is weary of prisons, of one's work, and of devotion to duty, and all one craves for is a loved face, the warmth and wonder of a loving heart."

2011-02-17T15:25:00.009-03:00

Yesterday, we started questioning this decision of ours to swap quantity for quality. That wise and respectable choice was made before we re-realized that we're in Stockholm and still absolutely clueless as to how people become boyfriends and girlfriends in this town. It is, of course, nicer to eat at Nobu everyday instead of McDonald's. But McDonald's must surely be better than no food at all.

Our skylift-riding friend then said; "Yes, but you don't feel so good after eating at Mickey D. What I really want is someone to sleep with, but who doesn't want to hang out all the time." We agree, but it also depends on how hungry and bored you are. And we like hanging out a lot.

Another fast food-reference comes from last weekend when our doctor pal said that walking home from a night out ain't too bad with a cheeseburger in each hand and one in the pocket of his coat. Our respons to that was; when walking home, we would rather have one man by the hand than two cheeseburgers in our pocket.

2011-02-16T17:29:00.008-03:00

Sometimes we feel as if newspapers are just full of BS, and that's why it is delightful to actually learn something useful while reading them. This time it came down to the simplicity of choosing your partner, and inspired by the couple featured in Dagens Nyheter, we now know that you should go for a man that is utterly attractive, very funny and who loves you.

Trots bråk ibland är kärleken mellan Erik och Martina på många sätt starkare nu än i början av deras förhållande. Erik tycker att Martina är generös som låter honom hållas med sina jakthundar och Martina tycker fortfarande att Erik är den roligaste och snyggaste hon vet.
– Ja, Erik är väldigt, väldigt snygg. Ibland när han pratar hör jag inte vad han säger bara för att jag står och tänker på att han är så snygg.

2011-02-13T09:43:00.003-03:00

Because what we really like are dudes who are comfortable in colors other than black, navy blue and beige, who possess the virtues of being humble and grateful and for whom lounging in a horisontal position comes naturally. Or to quote the large-mouthed poet Steven Tyler; "All I want is someone I can't resist, I know all I need to know by the way that I got kissed."

2011-02-13T09:42:00.004-03:00

The Modern Love column is one of the few places where the art of broken-heartedness, and love in all its forms, is given proper space, at least once a week, in the respectable newspaper of New York. We would like to write there one day, too. It just seems like something romantic has to happen first.

By midnight, we’d already spent an hour canoodling in the dark corner of a salsa bar, and another hour rolling around half-naked on his building’s roof, Metro-North trains rumbling a few blocks away. I had no idea if I’d ever see him again, and inhaled every minute of the most uninhibited fun I’d had in years.
When we finally reached his apartment, I realized what I’d missed by marrying at 23. His bedroom was one of those only-in-New-York creations carved out of the living room — no windows, walls that didn’t reach the ceiling. Looking for a safe space to lay my pearl necklace and earrings, I knew I was a long way from my former five-bedroom colonial in the suburbs./.../
I worried that maybe I shouldn’t be playing this game with a heart that would never quite heal. But this I now know: People we love come, and they frequently go. What matters is staying open: to possibility, to connection, to hope.

Photos: the lovely Jenny Mörtsell and Sozi

2011-02-11T09:00:00.003-03:00

Because, after all, recieving double honors from the You Look Great Society is an accomplishment worthy of praise, regardless of cleptomanic tendencies and a somewhat confused demeanor.

2011-02-11T08:22:00.005-03:00

Valentine's Day is coming up and we are compiling a long list of boys who ought to recieve letters of admiration. But V-day is also about the wonderful non-romantic loves of your life who are out there. The girls who find a million treasures on the internet while staying indoors, who incorporate dreams in reality when going outside and who knows that 2011 is all about slow romance, or slomance as we like to call it.

Ladies also seem to have a thing for advice that men lack, and one of the more thoughtful consultation comes from the Dear Sugar, The Rumpus Advice column;

Dear Seeking Wisdom,

You are not a terrible person for wanting to break up with someone you love. You don’t need a reason to leave. Wanting to leave is enough. Leaving doesn’t mean you’re incapable of real love or that you’ll never love anyone else again. It doesn’t mean you’re morally bankrupt or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac. It means you wish to change the terms of one particular relationship. That’s all. Be brave enough to break your own heart. /.../

Don’t lament so much about how your career is going to turn out. You don’t have a career. You have a life. Do the work. Keep the faith. Be true blue.
You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else. /.../

When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t “mean anything” because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss him back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. Your son will have his eyes. /.../

Yours,
Sugar

2011-02-11T08:10:00.005-03:00

Recently, we're becoming more and more convinced about what the meaning of life is. First and foremost it is all about being. Not being x, y, z. But just being grateful to be alive.
Secondly, it is our firm belief that you ought to love and be kind to all, to create a security that allows people to blossom to their full potential instead of buying a lot of crap, for money they don't have, to impress people they don't care about.
Quite simple, really.

2011-02-08T12:57:00.002-03:00

Because Blue Valentine seems to be the movie of the year for die hard romantics, and if more guys possessed just a teaspoon of the Gosling-charm we would be even less likely to end up facing the "kharmageddon". A word the creator describes as; "It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's, like a serious bummer."

2011-02-08T12:48:00.003-03:00

There is a bit of cocktail chatter on the merging of science and spirituality these days. It is possible that this relates to the fact that we are moving closer to the 2012 portal , or it could also be a simple misconception, with the actual meaning being the merge of sub-cultures and spirituality. Our friends over at Hipster or Jesus has started a thorough research project, mapping out the modern Messiahs. And although we are all God's children, some of us simply look better in beards.

2011-02-03T08:56:00.009-03:00

Because;
a) we love the refreshing realism-pessimism that Parisians master,
b) you can spend a day at an Indian market, overflowing with silk, gold, spices, trash and stuff made of dreams, yet come to the conclusion; "Actually, I did not see anything that I really liked" and
c) when you say; "I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about", we know that we are on to something.